What is Divorce Mediation?

Divorce Mediation is a process whereby an independent Mediator assists couples who are separating or divorcing resolve conflict by empowering them to create practical and fair solutions together. Family mediation gives couples an opportunity to decide for themselves what they would like for their families future.

When couples make the decision to separate or divorce, it can be extremely difficult to sit together and have amicable conversations with one another. Making decisions about your children or how you will divide money or property fairly can be very difficult under these circumstances. Feelings can get in the way and discussions about practical things get lost in the hurt and anger. So couples often resort to going to court and argue over matters they are better placed to resolve themselves.This is expensive, emotionally draining and has an impact on everyone in the family. It is for these reasons that many people find it useful to seek help of a family mediator.

Key principles of Divorce Mediation

Divorce Mediation Principles

1. Confidential: The process is held in private and the  information clients share with the mediator is strictly confidential, with some very limited exceptions. Proposals put forward during mediation cannot be referred to in court proceedings.
2. Voluntary: Both parties have to want to mediate, and therefore either of the parties can stop the mediation process at any time. More and more the courts expect families to attempt mediation before litigation begins. However mediation is not  always suitable, and parties can not be forced to mediate.
3. Empowering: Is synonymous with taking responsibility and this is what the mediation process encourages and enables you to do. Ultimately it is you that is responsible for resolving your conflict and finding fair and practical solutions.
4. Objective: The mediator’s role is to be an impartial third party and at no time do they take sides.  Mediators are not there to advise you, they are there to guide you both through the process in a non judgmental way. They do give information about certain issues when the need arises.
5. Unique: You determine what issues need to be addressed. You decide on the solution, you control the outcome and as a result, you are the decision makers of what the future holds for you and your family.